What part of your life do you need to shed?

Here’s a letter we wrote to America’s richest woman, Oprah Winfrey.

“Dear Oprah,” we began. “Please buy up all the Pizza Huts and convert
them into a network of Menstrual Huts. Create 10,000 or 100,000 local
neighborhood sanctuaries where women can retreat while they’re in the
throes of their monthly appointment with dying and purification — or any
time they need a break from the tyranny of the clock.

“Let the men come, too. They need sabbaticals. We’re all desperate for a
regular chance to drop out of the crazy-making grind, to find respite from
civilizations’ crimes against the rhythms of sleep and love and play.

“Men may actually need the Menstrual Huts even more than women. They
mistakenly imagine that they can drive themselves on and on and on.
Their poor bodies don’t have a built-in menstrual mechanism to cyclically
slow them down. And so they mostly never stop to peer into the heart of
their own darkness. Which is why so many of them tend to find evil
everywhere else except in themselves, and fight it everywhere else except
in themselves.

“Just a theory to consider: If men got a chance to have periodic
breakdowns and negotiate in a safe place with the toxic feelings that just
naturally build up inside everyone over time, maybe they wouldn’t wreak
so much havoc out in the world. Maybe Menstrual Huts would save the

Our letter to Oprah went on for two more pages, but you get the gist.
She has not yet responded to our plea.

In the meantime, we suggest that anyone who’s interested create their
own local Moon Lodges and Menstrual Huts. Here’s a list of self-inquiries
that could help to guide the time in the sanctuary

1. What feelings and intuitions have you been trying to ignore lately?

2. Which parts of your life are overdue for death?

3. What messages has life been trying to convey to you but which you’ve
chosen to ignore?

4. What red herrings, straw men, and scapegoats have you chased after
obsessively in order to avoid dissolving your most well-rationalized

5. What unripe parts of yourself are you most ashamed or fearful of? How
can you give those parts more ingenious love?

6. What parts of yourself have the least integrity and don’t act in
harmony with what you regard as your highest values? How can you bring
them into alignment with your true desires?

7. Is it possible that in repressing things about yourself that you don’t
like, you have also disowned potentially strong and beautiful aspects of
yourself? What are they?

8. Are those really flaws that are bugging you about the people whose
destinies are entwined with yours, or just incompletely developed talents?
Are those really flaws that are bugging you about yourself, or merely
incompletely developed talents?

9. Some people try to deny their portion of the world’s darkness and
project it onto individuals or groups they dislike. Others acknowledge its
power so readily that they allow themselves to be overwhelmed by it. We
believe in taking an in-between position, accepting it as an unworked gift
that can serve our liberation. Where do you stand?

10. It’s easy to see fanaticism, rigidity, and intolerance in other people,
but harder to acknowledge them in yourself. Do you dare?

-Robert Breszny

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Posted by | Paul Reynolds
Paul has been a yoga teacher on the Island of Kauai for many years and is the facilitator of the weekly Living the Question Blog - a repository of wisdom and inspiration. Paul also produces and hosts Le Guru is You Radio Show, showcasing everyday gurus.

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